Jazzy carols are streaming out of the speaker and smell of coffee beans is floating in the air. I look around to find my friend and someone waves her hand after noticing me. At the left corner, Alexandra is sitting with her laptop and a cup of coffee. It's only been three months since I met her in one of my classes but it doesn't feel awkward or uncomfortable at all.
"I'm from Moscow, Russia, as you know and my parents are actually both Koreans." She began to talk naturally. "I was born there and grew up there my entire life going to Russian schools but I always knew in my heart that I also belong to a country called Korea." Though it was not something I expected, it made our conversation much more interesting and grabbed my attention to the fullest. She continued on saying "my great grandparents moved to Russia in 1940s and the Russian government forced them to move to southern part of Russia thinking they were Japanese. They were supposed to starve to death, that's what the government actually wanted of them. But they managed to live with the help of seeds that they brought from Korea. They cultivated crops and that's how the life of Korean-Russians started."
After taking a sip of coffee, she told me about how she began to build her connection between Korea and herself. According to Alexandra, there is a Korean community in Moscow and people organize several education programs regarding Korean studies – language and culture mostly. In elementary school, she was fascinated by Korean dance and she started taking dance class in the community center during every vacation. With a light smile she seemed like she was recalling those memories. "I visited Korea a few times before coming to HUFS for dance camps and stuff. The more I learned, the more interested I became so I decided to attend university in Korea."
When I asked how it was to adjust in Korea at the beginning, she answered without hesitation that it definitely was challenging. "I couldn't speak Korean very well back then and I really didn't have someone to talk to and share my feelings and thoughts. I used to call my family six times a day." She let out that laughter of embarrassment. "And to be honest, I did regret coming here. It was so different from what I thought. I couldn't feel certain belonging at all. But after a year, I made friends here and got used to life in Korea. I realized the quality of life I can enjoy here." It's been four years since she came to Korea, and now she finds this place comfortable and dynamic. She also added that she doesn't regret her choice at all and although there were tough times, it all helped her to grow and be who she is right now.
"Of course, there are things that I find distressing in Korea. The biggest one is the characteristic of collectivism that Koreans have." She explained how susceptible Koreans are in trend and how much of group life is implicitly forced to individuals. At first this was one aspect she could not understand and deal with at the beginning. A celebrity wears something and instantly that becomes a trend and everybody has the same item. When she was freshman, she did not want to go for a drink but she had to because it was part of school activity and seniors said that this kind of get together is necessary. This is something that I always found disagreeable in Korean society and I was pleasantly surprised that she also saw this as negative side. However, I could see and feel the affection that she has for this country and she was willing to say proudly that she is Korean.
"I want to stay here and explore Korea outside the school. I don't know if I want to stay here for further future like getting married and spending rest of my life in Korea, but I am positive on staying here after my graduation. There are so many things that we can see, learn and do! We're young and I feel like I want to experience more than just student life here." Flash of excitement and passion were flickering in her eyes behind the round glasses. It was always interesting to see Korea in a foreigner's perspective as more and more people visit Korea. Though there are many things that Korea should improve, I was genuinely happy to see that a friend, a foreigner, a Korean-Russian was more than satisfied with her life in Korea.